I was introduced as an "expecting" mother for the first time.
And it caught me by surprise.
As an adopting mama, I choose who I want to tell about the little blessing we are expecting. My stomach does not announce that I am 5 months paper pregnant. Our family and closest friends know about this adoption, (via our bracelets, postcards, video, and excited phone conversations), but other than that, we have kept the news pretty quiet and plan to keep it that way until we receive a referral.
Recently, Future Papa and I attended a reception for a local adoption ministry. We love the support this group of families provides and are excited to be a part of an adoption conference they are planning for our town in October. Future Papa and I will be sharing our testimony as a young couple who felt led to adoption, without experiencing infertility. And so, at this reception, while chatting with a group of women, I was introduced as "expecting."
And yes, their eyes went straight to my belly.
And finally, back to the friend who introduced me, who was now scrambling to explain that we were adopting from Taiwan.
How funny. I can't stop giggling about this encounter. Here we are, at an adoption ministry reception, and the surprise is still there. That, in turn, surprised me, as they scrambled to make up for their reaction by asking how far along we were in the process and if we requested a particular gender.
Do funny things like this happen to other adopting mothers? I sure got a good laugh about it, but it really is a unique position to be young and expecting a baby without the belly to announce it...